A powerful single parent.

Solo parenting is always stressful and hectic. One of every 10 Indian children lives in a single-parent home. Circumference may vary (divorced, widowed, by choice), but parenting challenges remain the same.

Here are the 7 tips to bring back the joy in parenting.

1. Play your role instead of your spouse.

Often, a single parent wants to do the best things for kids and give them happiness and luxury. They compare their kid’s life with other kids who have both fathers and mothers. They want to be the best single parent and try to fulfill all their needs, and they always try to make sure that their kids should not miss their other parents. If you feel the same and you are a single parent, then hold your thoughts.

The first thing is that your kid will never compare you with other parents unless a kid is a minor. Secondly, they only need you to spend time with them and make a beautiful memory, leaving those tiny movements that make them happier than gifting their luxurious life.

So be you, achieve your (Father/mother) role promptly first, rather than trying to fulfill someone else (X husband / X wife) role.

2. Treasure the movement.

Often, single parents may initially deal with financial challenges and the guilt of not providing everything their children might want. And keep themselves busy to earn more money.

Remember, your children do not wish to have expensive toys, dresses, or go to the summer champs. Instead, they need quality time, love, fun, and memory-making experiences. Consider free activities like walking in a park, taking pictures, preparing favorite snacks, drenching in the rain, watching cartoons, pillow fights, hide and seek, gardening, and many more activities that keep you connected with the kids.

It’s all about your feelings and thoughts that you need to provide kids everything in this world, but believe me, all they need is your quality time, presence, and affection.

3. Stay Strong.

Single parents get attached to their parents once separated from a spouse in most cases. As a single parent, you will know the strength of family support. Your parents outpour their care and love for you. They don’t want you to suffer alone in the journey of life, struggling as a single parent. They are not wrong, but too much family support will make you mentally weak, and you may feel dependent, making you emotionally fragile. You will not realize when your family support makes you feel vulnerable, makes you dependent, and makes you feel helpless.   

Family moral support is essential, but ensure you own your and your kid’s responsibilities. And you decide your and your kid’s future. It will make you feel more robust and more independent. You may go wrong on some steps, but that’s ok. So do all parents. But don’t lose your confidence.

4. Gratitude

Teach kids to appreciate what they have. Be grateful for whatever you have in your life. Teach your kid to be happy and thank God for the minor things they receive, such as chocolate, surprise snacks, small toys, etc.

Teaching kids to appreciate what they have is very important, instead of complaining about not having more toys to play with or places to visit for the holidays.

5. Avoid negative statements about the opposite sex.

Always talk positively about the child’s other parent. Never say anything negative about the opposite sex. Make sure the child has grown up looking at the positive aspects of both sexes. Things would have gone wrong between the parents, but that should not affect the relationship with the kid. The child should get an opportunity to spend time with the other spouse.

Yes, there are some exceptional cases, Sometimes you have a strong reason to keep the other parent away from the kid. But do justice to your kid, don’t be selfish.  

It is very important; a child needs to grow up in a neutral zone. Keep the child separate from the adult’s thoughts.

6. Come Back

Yes, that is true that you had a bad experience in your life, and it won’t change. No one can do anything about the past. But your future is in your hand.

Take time to realize what went wrong, and take time to come back. Nothing wrong with getting upset about the situation you went through. Cry, and share it with the person with whom you are comfortable. Suppressing your emotions and pretending that whatever happened didn’t affect you will not help you overcome the past. Being upset about what went wrong in your life is not bad.

But once you are back, change your lifestyle. Invest in yourself, love yourself, exercise, read books, meditate, stay stylish, be you, and bring more confidence. And come back whole again and get on with your life. It will help you to up-bring your kid in a positive environment.

7. love yourself

“You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”Buddha.

You will not be able to make your kid happy until you satisfy yourself. So often, parents make mistakes in sacrificing many things to give their family luxury or comfortable life. Nothing is wrong or right here since it depends on the individual. But taking care of yourself, loving yourself, and pampering yourself are equally important to keep yourself and your family happy.

Otherwise, you will come to such a situation that you start thinking, why did I not care for myself? And for whom I made all the sacrifices, they are busy in their world. And that time, it will be too late to react to your situation.

Conclusion

Friends are not always with you to cheer you up, parents’ moral support is not constant, and work does not give you all the happiness in this world. Likewise, Marriage is not everything in life. It is always a part of life. For some people, it works, and it does not work for a few.  

Your happiness should always be constant, which is in your positive thoughts. Rest is taken care of automatically. Stay positive and love yourself always.

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